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We have some friends who are contemplating the husband/father quitting work to be a stay-at-home dad and care for the kids. My husband and I have had this arrangement since 2008 and it has been wonderful for our family. Our children are happier, our marriage is stronger and we enjoy each other much more than we could when we were a two income family with loads of stress and no free time.
But this arrangement isn’t for everyone and if the benefits don’t outweigh the costs (loss of a second income is a big deal!) then it can cause far greater problems. Why does our situation work so well for us? We think it boils down to four key points.
1. His job is to support me – those are his words, not mine. If that means cancelling a poker game because I have to go out of town – no problem. If I have to miss family dinner because an out of town exec wants an evening meeting – no problem. If he has two sick, grumpy kids crying for their mom, he handles it. The complete ownership on his part creates a guilt-free environment for me so I can focus on maximizing my opportunities and, hopefully, our income.