Monthly Archives: April 2015
I recently accepted a job in San Diego, CA. Awesome, right? That is 1,733 mile from my current home in Waukee, Iowa (a suburb of Des Moines). This should be a piece of cake. The weather is better – beaches, oceans, the Zoo. It is a great opportunity and I know that we will be happy here. After all, we have done this before. In 2010, we moved from Austin, TX to Waukee, Iowa which is a distance of 927 miles, for those keeping score. So why is this so hard? Why do we have moments when we feel like the family is coming apart at the seams? We have learned a few things along the way so here are our 5 tips for making a cross country move a success.
1. It’s about the family
The greatest job in the world cannot make up for an unhappy spouse and kids. Make sure they are invested in and excited about the move. Every city has very cool features – the corn mazes in Iowa are amazing! Find out what is special about your new destination and celebrate it.
Also remember how important your spouse is. Moves are often easier on the working spouse as they have an instant community at the office, and the kids will adapt to their new friends at school. It’s critically important that the “support” spouse has a support system of their own. Neglect that piece of the puzzle and ‘successful’ may not be the word used to describe the move.
2. It’s about the message
When it comes to getting the family excited, choose your words carefully. If you say to the kids ‘I know you have great friends here and I am sorry that you have to leave them,’ you are setting a tone. If you say ‘This place is so cool. You won’t believe all of the activities and awesome adventures we are going to have,’ then you are leading with positivity and this can make a huge difference in the perception of the kids – especially those in elementary school.